Kids are not adults.
Let me ask you a question - would you rather be complimented about your child being an independent and honest individual who respects themself and others or.. about them being a very good child who listens to everything they're told and does everything they are asked for without a word of objection?
I'm guessing the latter.
So how does the way you treat them and what you expect from them translate onto what kind of person you want them to be? How does telling a child to do or not do something and expecting them to listen without a peep translate onto.. them becoming an independent and honest individual?
This is a short blog post, but it is essential.